Happy New Year friends! I hope you all are feeling fueled up to take on the new year and the new decade, rather than feeling bogged down by any pressure to set resolutions that you aren’t all that jazzed up about keeping.
Before I really make the transition to 2020 here on the blog, I wanted to take some time today to look back on the goals I set at the beginning of 2019 and see where they led me by the end of the year. Because it’s one thing to set goals; it’s another to follow through on them.
Now I don’t want to put any pressure on you to set goals like I do; or make you feel guilty for not having any goals in the first place. I am a firm believer in setting goals that work for YOU. And because each of us have been uniquely wired, different things work for different people. And I’ll even go further to say that different things work for different seasons of life. So please do not come away from this putting any pressure on yourself to do more than you are meant to do, or even be more than you are meant to be. However, if you have not figured out a method of goal setting that works for you, I highly encourage you to do some digging for yourself. If setting one goal is all you need, great! If you need an accountability partner to help you through, seek one out. If using some sort of method or tool helps you to uncover your heart’s wildest desires, go for it! The only way to learn is some trial and error.
My method for the past couple years has been utilizing Cultivate What Matter’s PowerSheets* to help me set intentions for the year and then be held accountable to follow through. It’s something that has worked for me up to this point and it has helped to put more heart and mindfulness behind the goals I set.
If you’d like a refresher on what I set out to achieve in 2019, be sure to read these two posts about the reasons behind my word of the year and my goals. If you do, you may notice some differences from the goals I review in this post. That’s because with the PowerSheets, every quarter I do a check in to re-evaluate where I’m at, and where I want to go. A year is a long time – I think that’s one reason why New Year’s Resolutions can be so daunting. So it helps to revisit the goals I set at the start of the year and confirm whether or not they are still on my heart to pursue. I added some goals, made changes to some goals, and altogether eliminated some goals as the year went by, and that is ok.
So without further adieu, here’s how it all went:
Word of the Year: Action
This was my second time choosing a ‘word of the year’ and I found this one to be extremely helpful in holding me accountable to following through on my goals and actually doing the things I wanted to do in 2019. I certainly still battled with stagnancy, laziness, and procrastination with things, but God continually helped me to recall the word He gave me so I would get. to. work. and I’m very grateful for it.
Goal 1: Choose Obedience
I added this goal over the summer as God was continuing to press on my heart the call to blog more often. This was an area of my life that really needed some action, and so I added it in as a goal to hold me accountable. Just setting this as a goal only took me so far, because I still wasn’t actively making much time for this space, but I ended the year with God leaving me no choice but to obey in this area as he stripped away my job (read more about that here). Looking back, 2019 was infiltrated with God preparing my heart for this season, and much of it started with my lack of action coming to light. Part of me is ashamed it’s taken so long and such drastic measures, but God’s mercy and love supersede that and have me motivated to move forward.
Goal 2: Serve My Marriage Well
Within each goal I have some mini goals, and while I didn’t excel at all of them with this specific goal, I am so pleased with where we ended the year, mainly in thanks to the Marriage Journal. I mentioned this in my 2019 recap, and I do still plan to share more in detail about it here in the future, but the habit of coming together to follow this journal once a week has drastically impacted our marriage for the better, and it has opened up doors for us to serve each other better. I am satisfied with where we ended the year, and I am excited to continue to work on growing even more this year, and every year to come.
Goal 3: 2019 Will Be My Healthiest Year Yet
And by golly, it was. I consistently worked out in a variety of ways, and in ways that I have come to enjoy (which is another victory in itself), so much so that I have been able to adjust and continue staying active even after my gym closing. I gave intermittent fasting a try in 2019 and found some new freedom along with it. I was released from physical therapy for a shoulder injury and established a better connection with what feels right for my body. I gave pilates a try and have started to add it in to my new workout regime. And despite having more discipline, I still lived my life and enjoyed ice cream and Pizza Friday without shame. I had more balance and I gave myself grace. I still have some mental battles I face, but 2019 was full of such good growth for my overall health, and it certainly fuels my drive to continue on this journey in 2020.
Goal 4: Stop Resisting & Start Pursuing Community
While I ended the year feeling slightly guilty for not working harder on this, I didn’t realize how much time we spent with others until I looked back on the year. It’s been a conglomeration of different people we have spent time with (individually and together). We’ve had some game nights and double dates, as well as joined in on some group events with old and new friends. I’ve continued to grow in my relationships with girls from a Bible Study I attend. We joined a new small group with some people closer to our age and are growing in relationships with them. And we had quality time with some long time friends scattered throughout the year as well. It hasn’t all been perfect, because I still hermit oftentimes, but I definitely see the growth and more satisfaction in our community here, and that is what is valuable to me.
Goal 5: Break Up With My Phone
I added this goal to my list in the final quarter of the year because to be honest, I kept getting so fed up with myself for how much time I waste scrolling on my phone. Apart from some fear of failure, it is the number one thing that holds me back from taking action on the rest of my goals. While I had some good days (including some phone free days, and even a scroll free WEEK in November), I’d still have days where I would constantly be staring at my handheld screen. I am definitely planning on carrying this goal over into 2020.
Goal 6: Read 12 Books In 12 Months
Well, I came up short by 3 books, but to be honest, I am still so pleased. I read a few really great winners throughout the year (if you’d like me to share more about them, let me know in the comments!), and I found so much value in the time I did choose to read. I plan to keep setting this goal each year, and hopefully increasing the number of books as well.
Goal 7: Enjoy Adventures
Looking back on the year, I’m so thankful for the adventures we had. While there’s always a desire for more, and we certainly could have tried harder to do more, we had some great adventures together in 2019. I outline many of them in my 2019 recap post here, and I hope to dive deeper into some of them on the blog soon. Some of my favorite highlights are definitely our hike to Sky Pond, our St. Lucia vacation and hiking Gros Piton, road tripping to Montana to visit Air Force friends, and spending our anniversary weekend in Colorado Springs.
All in all, I am satisfied with where I finished the year. I purposely set vague goals with more specific action steps because my perfectionist self finds so much freedom in valuing growth over completion. So while I can’t necessarily say I achieved all my goals, I can definitely say I made progress, and I am content with that. Besides, it just gives me a guide for things I want to work on THIS year.
Which…the rest of this week I will be diving into my 2020 word of the year, as well as the goals I am starting out the year with, so stay tuned if goal setting is your kind of thing – or if you’re just curious what I’ll be spending my time focused on this year.
Now it’s your turn – tell me, how did your goals pan out in 2019? What goals did you make progress on? Which goals are you proud of for accomplishing? Which goals did you totally chuck out the window? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
*This is not sponsored or an affiliate link – I’m just simply sharing a product that I personally use, and genuinely love. If PowerSheets might be a tool that would be helpful to you, it may not be too late to join in on the fun this year. They are sold out of a few of their cover options, but last I checked they do have one left here. Or, if you just want to give a piece of their methods a try, you can follow along with Lara Casey’s Goal Setting Series here.