This weekend marked the completion of my 28th trip around the sun. As I reflected on this past year, I took into consideration all that I experienced and learned. I am of the opinion that no matter what age we are, as every year goes by we will always have more to learn in life. So here’s a look at ten of the standout things that made an impact on me in my 28th year:
The pursuit of health is about the journey, not the destination. I can easily default into the thinking that once I lose X amount of weight, or once I tone up X area of my body, THEN I will have “arrived” and I can just maintain from there. But I’ve come to find that, for one, those X factors are easily capable of endlessly changing; and for another, once those X factors are achieved, it takes just as much, if not more, work to maintain. Pursuing physical health is a winding road that looks different through all the seasons of life, so I’m really working to shift my perspective for the long haul, rather than trying to “arrive” and be done with it.
Approaching my health in a worshipful way rather than as a vain pursuit is an ongoing mental battle, but it is a battle worth fighting. I have been trying my darnedest for the last two-three years to approach my health it in a way that glorifies God, rather than simply trying to look a certain way. This past year has specifically been filled with many victories in this area, but at times it has felt like an all out war on my mind as I try to rewire my reasonings and approaches. As I continue to journey on this path, I know there is still more fighting to come. And I’m here for it.
Days spent away from my phone are always good days. Always.
Justice is the Lord’s. It is not mine to deliver. His providence is present in all of life’s circumstances, so I can, and should, trust Him to carry out His good and perfect will, even if it is not what I think is most fair in the moment.
Comfort is a huge idol in my life that majorly holds me back from obediently following Jesus. And it’s taking a lot of prayer to re-wire my brain and uproot it.
Take it ALL to the Lord in prayer. Like, everything. Joy, sorrow, gratitude, praise, disappointment, frustration, pain, confusion – all of it. There is no greater counselor to work through my “ish” with. He is a safe place and a refuge – even and especially when all around me feels unsteady. He can handle the messiest and ugliest parts of me. And he does so with grace, mercy, love, and gentleness.
Work from approval. Not for it. It’s so easy for me to seek to please or seek praise from others. But I was not made to work for approval – especially from people. I have already been considered approved by God through the blood of Jesus Christ, and therefore I will turn around and work with confidence in, and gratitude of, that.
Communication is a (if not THE) key to abundant relationships. And I am not as good at it as I thought I was. The only way for me to get better, is to practice. Thankfully I’ve had a lot of opportunity for it this year, most significantly in my marriage. I am really trying to remember that no one is a mind reader, so the best way to make my feelings known, resolve conflict, create unity, or establish understanding is to kindly speak up and use my words. It’s proven to be better than avoidance or bottling up (my defaults) 100% of the time.
Have gracious assumptions of others. There is much more going on in someone’s mind and intentions than I ever let myself believe. I need to give others the grace to be as beautifully complicated as I am.
I have spent so much time striving to be my Ideal Self rather than embracing my Actual Self. And while my Actual Self is full of brokenness, messiness, and sinfulness, that is the part of me that God has equipped to take on my specific life circumstances. This is just another area of myself that I need to cool it with the striving and embrace the grace.
Well there you have it – ten major things that God has been teaching me and giving me the grace to implement in my life in the last year. A significant thing for me to point out is that these are not things I have mastered. But they are all lessons that have stopped me in my tracks at least a time or two, and shifted the way I think or the way I approach life. I can guarantee you that I’ll be carrying all of this with me over into my 29th year, and all the years after.
What about you? What has stood out as a life lesson in your latest year of life? Maybe there’s something I learned in year 28 that already comes easy to you, but maybe there’s also something that you could benefit from learning too. If there is, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below.
Until next time friends!